Taking the War Out of Our Words (3rd Edition)

In this groundbreaking book, Sharon Ellison takes us to the root of our communication problems. She shows us how defensiveness functions in our lives and can lead to hurtful power struggles, outlining the six basic patterns we use:

* Self-Betrayal

* Avoidance

* Excuses

* Sabotage

* Vindictiveness

* Blame

Using her Powerful, Non-Defensive Communication process, you can express yourself with a compelling blend of vulnerability and honesty. Learn to:

* Ask disarming questions that prompt others to drop their defenses and open up

* Give direct feedback to others without being judgmental

* Express your own beliefs, feelings, and ideas passionately without being adversarial, so you can be heard and respected

* Set firm boundaries that create security and clear expectations.

"Taking the War Out of Our Words" provides us with vital tools for healing conflict, enhancing self-esteem, becoming more open and spontaneous, strengthening relationships, transforming organizations, and guiding the way toward peace in our global community.

"Taking the War Out of Our Words ought to be required reading in high school, college, before getting married, and before becoming a parent. Sharon Strand Ellison's work has the power to turn conflict into cooperation, resentment into rapport. This book can change lives and relationships: Read it and reap." -- Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! and Take the Bully by the Horns

"The premise is powerful: Human communication has been shaped by our focus on defensive self-protection and power struggle."

-- Mike Maza, Dallas Morning News

"We need Sharon Ellison's work in our homes, in our offices, and most of all, in our hearts."

-- Evelyn C. White, editor, The Black Women's Health Book

"Ellison has developed a powerful method, with unlimited potential, that will strengthen interpersonal relationships, increase organizational effectiveness, and contribute greatly to building a more productive and harmonious society."

-- Diana Chesterfield, Corporate Manager, Nordstrom