Success with beautiful women--and avoiding rejection--is as easy as falling out of bed...if you understand the "science of love," that is. Just as wolf spiders and baboons have their own formulas for success with the opposite sex, so it is with humans, scientists are discovering.
Former model/biologist Ursula Lindstrom shows men the low-risk way to be a big hit with attractive women and explains why conventional dating advice has been ineffectual for pursuing these beauties. Thanks to evolutionary science, men finally get a reliable road map for pursuing the women of their dreams while removing much of the risk and guesswork. Don't worry. You don't have to be a scientist to learn the secrets. Lindstrm makes the science component of love-life success all but transparent by mixing fascinating research on human mating behavior with anecdotes and advice from beautiful women and easy to follow, step-by-step instruction from approach to bedroom. The engaging what's-i! n-it-for-me? format includes techniques and tips on everything from navigating around the biggest pitfalls in the "mating dance" to maximizing sex appeal and making killer first impressions. With advice straight from the latest scientific studies, much of the anxiety--and risk--are removed from the pursuit of gorgeous women. But the real payoff comes when men discover they're no longer fated to endure single lives of lonely nights and lost opportunities--as the women of their dreams become reality.
Secret #1: Understanding the Breed Susan, a charming twenty-eight-year-old medical student, slowly makes her way--smiling--past several tuxedoed men, loosely assembled in groups of three or four. She has long, light brown hair, crystal blue eyes, Shirley Temple dimples, and a body to die for. Susan looks stunning in her backless black gown. Not one of the men speaks to her, although a few of them sneak a peek after she passes--turning their eyeballs, but not their heads. The event is an exclusive black tie affair for single men and women. Jim, a new acquaintance, and I are standing on a balcony, observing the scene below. Jim, as it turned out, had dated Susan. After watching Susan's sweet sashay through the clumps of unresponsive men, I asked Jim, "What do you make of that? Not one of those men made any attempt to meet one of the prettiest females here!" "They're all intimidated by her," was Jim's matter-of-fact reply. Being new to this network of single people, I was confused. Here were accomplished men, mostly in their thirties and forties, who had paid plenty for the pricey affair, gotten all dressed up, and then failed to take the action which was the assumed goal of the event--to meet attractive single women. "But why don't they talk to the 'less intimidating' females, then?" I protested. To which Jim replied, "Because they're not interested in meeting less attractive women. They all want someone like Susan. But they're afraid to stick their necks out. So they stand around hoping the women will initiate something. A lot of the guys here," he continued, "are professional bachelors, whether they want to be or not. You can see why." Yes, I could see why. It has a lot to do with risk-taking. Jim enjoys taking risks, in both his business and personal life. Success--and a rockin' good time--are his in both arenas, as a result. Most of the men there that evening--financially successful and accomplished in their fields--were proficient risk-takers in their professional lives. But their love-lives weren't exactly the stuff of steamy sex novels. Calculated Risks: The Key to Success Business and finance, it seems, are known entities--making them easier for men to tackle. Whether building multi-million dollar hi-tech companies from scratch, toying around with leveraged buyouts, or mercilessly wiping out their competition, these men had managed to acquire the knowledge required to calculate risk...and become successful. But women like Susan were "unknown entities." Calculated risks depend, after all, on knowing what you're dealing with. Sure, those men all wanted a beautiful woman like Susan. But with limited information about the breed, they weren't about to risk anything.
This brings us to step one in the pursuit of beautiful women: If your goal is to have not just any female, but a beautiful female, then understanding the psyche of this exotic breed is your first objective. Why We Covet Beauty (or--Just How Shallow Are We, Anyhow?) Before we go any further, I'd like to address what is sure to be an issue with some men, and plenty of women--physical beauty. Let's be honest. We all appreciate a pretty face. Studies reveal attractive criminals receive lighter sentences than their homelier counterparts, good-looking people get promoted more quickly than their plainer, but equally competent coworkers, and teachers give more attention to the cutest kids in the classroom. Even babies, scientists have discovered, respond more positively to beautiful strangers than to unattractive ones. And whether a culture is inundated by a youth- and beauty-obsessed media, or sequestered on some obscure island where the natives have never laid eyes on a Westerner--or their media hype--beauty is worshipped and revered. And the rest of the animal kingdom is not immune, either. Ugly ducklings, the runts of the litter, the irregulars and the defectives are shunned and ostracized. It's just not fair, is it? So, what's going on here? Are we all just as mindlessly shallow as the birds and the bees? When it comes to beauty, yes. It's called biology. Despite all the back-patting we humans feel is in order because of our "higher brains," we are no different from the rest of the animal kingdom when it comes to mate selection. Mother Nature has hardwired every living thing on the planet to seek out, and attempt to breed with, the best that each of our respective species has to offer. Like it or not, it's survival of the prettiest. Mother Nature doesn't care squat about the happiness of the individual. Her only concern is for the species--that it not only reproduce, but that it flourish and endure: and "good genes" are the surest way to accomplish her goal. So, don't shoot me--I'm just the messenger. I'm not endorsing female beauty as the number one quality to focus on. I'm simply recognizing that butting heads with Mother Nature is an exercise in futility. "Higher brained" or not, there's not a male reading this book who can convince himself he desires a homely woman more than a pretty one (all other things being equal). Our higher brains can't win the arm wrestling match with biology's mighty instincts, so don't feel depthless or guilty about your built-in preference for beautiful women. But what does this mean for the male who's been dealt a hand of less than god-like chromosomes? Fortunately for humans, beautiful or not, we have the unique ability to communicate our superior "inner qualities" to fellow members of our species. Those not awarded a Perfect Ten in the looks department can still join in the mating dance--and compete successfully. This is where our higher brains come in. (And luckily for the male gender, women aren't as brutal as men when it comes to physical beauty in mate selection. In fact, good looks rank relatively low on their wish-list. You're about to learn how to use this fact--and your higher brain--to your great advantage.)
