How to They/Them: A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity

“This tender, smart, personal book is a gift. Stuart Getty generously shows us, with witty illustrations and kind humor, the hows and whys of they/them pronouns. A wonderful and necessary resource that is a delight to read.”
—Michelle Tea, author of Modern Tarot and Valencia

What does nonbinary really mean? What is gender nonconforming? And isn't they a plural pronoun? In this charming and disarming guide, a real-life they-using genderqueer writer unpacks all your burning questions in a fun, visual way. No soapboxes or divisive comment-section wars here!

Sometimes funny, sometimes serious, always human, this gender-friendly primer will get you up to speed. It's about more than just bathrooms and pronouns--this is about gender expression and the freedom to choose how to identify. While they might only be for some, that freedom is for everyone!

“[A] clear, kind guide to gender nonconformity. Getty's cheeky tone and the punchy black-and-white illustrations by Brooke Thyng make this book a useful reference for anyone with questions about gender, whether their own or those they witness in the larger world.”
—Booklist

“Straightforward, practical, relevant navigation through the radiant world of gender fluidity.”
—Kirkus Reviews

Stuart Getty is a genderqueer writer and filmmaker who lives in sunny Oakland, California, with their wife, Nora; cat, Princess Magic Face; and dog, Meadow. They make films and show them at film festivals sometimes, and also do speaking engagements about they and gender at places like CreativeMornings, Pecha Kucha, and SXSW. They enjoy puzzles, jumping in cold water, and shredding. On rollerblades, of course.

Brooke Thyng is a queer designer and illustrator based in the Bay Area. When she’s not taking over the company’s photocopier to print oversize drawings inspired by weird things said in meetings, she likes to dance around the living room, laugh her head off, and read the news.