Unf*ck Your Life and Relationships : How Lessons from My Life Can Help You Build Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

Unf*ck Your Life and Relationships combines Anita’s personal story and the culmination of twenty-five years of clinical experience with individuals, couples, and families. She demonstrates that building healthy relationships starts from the inside out and calls for a “back to basics” of love and life that have become lost in a culture driven by electronic communication and social media attachment. 

Experiencing conflict in relationships is an unavoidable fact of life. When our relationships are messed up, our lives feel messed up. Likewise, our hearts and minds hurt—the two are intricately linked. Drawing on over twenty-five years of clinical experience with individuals, couples, and families, psychotherapist Anita Astley will walk you through practical steps to unf*ck yourself from the inside out in order to establish healthy relationships. Her approach takes you back to the basics of love and life that have become lost in a culture consumed by electronic communication and social media attachment. Anita will help guide you through your journey of transformation by identifying various psychological dynamics that serve to do more harm than good to you and your relationships. In addition, she will provide tools to help you hone your communication skills through active listening and effective speaking as a means of working through conflict to arrive at solutions. These practices have helped countless patients and have proven to be effective for Anita personally.

In this book, she shares her childhood journey from India to Germany (and then to Canada), reuniting with her father. However, his expectation for Anita to follow a culturally traditional path and consent to an arranged marriage destroyed her confidence and self-worth and left deep emotional scars. As she pursued higher education and individual psychotherapy, Anita found her voice through mentors who enabled her to break free, find her path to healing and inner strength, and eventually unlock the skills needed to help others. In these pages, Anita Astley now acts as your mentor and guide so you can do the same and learn to maintain inner emotional balance and form healthy, fulfilling relationships with those you love.

Born in India, Anita Astley moved to Germany as a child with her family to reunite with her father. Years of separation due to his ambitious quests for travel and employment created an emotional distance between father and daughter, contributing to what would be a very conflicted relationship. This experience triggered Astley to step into her destiny as a psychotherapist and adopt the mantra, “adversity builds resilience.” 

After living in four countries and becoming fluent in Hindi, French, and English, Astley has vast experience working with diverse populations covering a wide array of culturally specific relational dynamic. 

Astley received her Bachelor of Arts from Concordia University, her Master of Educational and Counselling Psychology degree from McGill University, and her postgraduate marriage and family therapy certification from the Argyle Institute of Human Relations. 

Over twenty-five-plus years, Astley has founded private practices, first in Montreal, followed by New York and Wisconsin, helping individuals, couples, and families with mental health and relational challenges. In addition, she has worked as an adjunct professor and consulted for mental health agencies. Astley has held leadership positions in local chapters of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, holding the notable title of a clinical fellow. 

Her passion for helping others build healthy relationships—from the inside out—has led Astley to take her expertise beyond the confines of her private practice and launch her Ask Anita Astley mission via a new book, social media, podcasts, radio, and TV.

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