Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith

Uniquely Us explores the complicated connection between Autism, Marriage, and Faith and provides a path forward for the Neurodiverse Couples working together in this journey.

Stephanie and Dan Holmes write from lived experience as a NeuroDiverse Christian Couple (NDCC) as well as professional experience working with NDCCs. Their first book, written with their adult children, Embracing the Autism Spectrum focuses on their parenting journey of neurodivergent children and discovering their own neurodiversity in marriage.

Uniquely Us is based on published research from Dan's later-in-life adult autism diagnosis. It focuses on faith, marriage, and autism, examining how neurodiversity and faith create a complex relationship dynamic for NeuroDiverse Christian Couples.

Uniquely Us is designed to educate clergy, coaches, chaplains, and counselors on the nuances and complexities of working with NeuroDiverse Christian Couples.

Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes was formerly a licensed professional counselor (LPC) in the state of North Carolina. She received her bachelor's degree in psychology from Campbell University, her Master's in counseling from Liberty University, and her doctorate in education from Abilene Christian University. She is an ordained minister, author, autism researcher, speaker, and certified autism specialist. When her daughter Sydney was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, her world and focus changed from a thriving marriage and family therapy practice to a world of Individualized Education Programs, 504 educational plans, and understanding how to help students and individuals with challenges and needs in the classroom and the church setting. Today, she pulls from personal as well as professional experience to focus on neurodiverse marriages and family systems. She is the owner and founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family, LLC, and she and her husband, Dan, are co-founders of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage, LLC, and the podcast NeuroDiverse Christian Couples. Dr. Holmes and her family, Dan, Sydney & Erica, share their different perspectives and insights as a neurodiverse family!

Rev. Dan Holmes is a seasoned leader with a rich background in systems architecture, design, and consulting. He received his bachelor's degree in management information systems from The University of Charlotte (UNCC at the time), and his Masters in computer science through The Georgia Institute of Technology (GT). In addition to his technical roles, he is a professional coach who guides Neurodivergent men, helping them harness their unique potential in personal and professional spheres. These dual roles allow him to integrate innovative thinking with empathy, fostering a culture of understanding and driving holistic growth. Dan is an ordained minister, Master Life Coach, and has served in church ministry through band ministry, small group leadership and board leadership. He received his own identification on the spectrum in 2019 and is a co-founder with his wife, Stephanie, of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage, LLC and their podcast, NeuroDiverse Christian Couples.