Untangling You: How Can I Be Grateful When I Feel So Resentful?

A practical guide to untangling difficult relationships, overcoming everyday resentments, and practicing gratitude to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. Based on 25 years of groundbreaking gratitude research from award-winning Australian educator and thought leader Dr Kerry Howells.

A practical guide to untangling difficult relationships, letting go of resentment and ultimately leading a happier life. No doubt you have experienced everyday resentment in your life: a sibling who appeared to be favoured by your parents; a partner who leaves you for another person; a neighbour who won’t deal with their barking dog; a workmate who is promoted ahead of you … the list goes on and on. These everyday resentments can keep simmering away, robbing us of joy and wreaking havoc on our health, relationships and workplaces. But no matter how hard we try to let it go and be the ‘bigger person’, sometimes it’s impossible to express gratitude toward someone who has wronged us. Thousands of clinical studies have demonstrated the positive benefits of gratitude to our physical, emotional and social wellbeing, but according to award-winning gratitude educator Dr Kerry Howells, it’s only when we experience the discomfort of not being able to find gratitude that a path opens for real growth and transformation. Based on 25 years of ground-breaking research, Untangling You is the first book of its kind to discuss gratitude in terms of its conceptual opposite: resentment. Using practical strategies, tools and insights, this life-changing book will show you how to start to repair difficult relationships, improve your wellbeing, grow your resilience, and ultimately move from resentment towards deep gratitude to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. Untangling You will help you on this journey, whether you are a leader, coach, parent, teacher, people manager, mentor, health professional, or just someone who wants to grow their character and self-efficacy.

Dr Kerry Howells is a thought leader, author, award-winning educator and experienced researcher who has spent over 25 years researching, teaching and practising gratitude. She has presented on the topic of gratitude to audiences around the world as a TEDx speaker and to the United Nations in New York, and is passionate about harnessing the role of gratitude to bring about flourishing relationships, a respectful workplace culture, and ultimately a more peaceful world. She lives in Hobart, Tasmania.