Don't Like The Way It Is? Change It!: Changing Before Or After An Ultimatum

As we look at ourselves, i.e. Our Personality - What don't we like? As we look at our Other, i.e. Their Personality - What don't we like? As we look at Our Other looking at us - What don't they like? As they look at us looking at them - What don't we like? We can do the same with the do likes we see in ourselves and in our Other - do likes they see us see in them and we see them in us. If we like in us what they like in us - that probably doesn't need changing. The same can be said if it's the other way around. What we and they need to consider changing are the don't likes in each of us that they and we don't like in ourselves and each other. Changing begins with ourselves. We can't change the Other - only ourselves. Our Other has to want to change. If we change and our Other doesn't - nor does our Other want to - It may become Giving-the-Other-an-ultimatum-time. If all we get from the Other is a No Way (to change) then, truly the ball is in our court and we may have to do what we choose to do.