Where Did "US" Go?

What happens when nothing is really wrong with your marriage—but something important is missing?

You still love each other. You are still committed. The bills get paid, the family functions, the calendar stays full, and life keeps moving. From the outside, your marriage may look completely fine.

But somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like US.

In Where Did “US” Go?, Bill and Jennsey McGee explore one of the most common—and least understood—problems in long-term marriage: the slow disappearance of connection between two people who never stopped loving each other.

There may have been no affair, no explosive crisis, and no moment when everything fell apart. Instead, distance developed quietly through busy seasons, disappointments, missed attempts at connection, unresolved hurts, changing desire, family pressures, and thousands of ordinary interactions.

Bill and Jennsey call this The Vanishing Point—the place where a marriage can keep working even while husband and wife gradually learn to live with less and less of each other.

Through practical insight, relatable stories, biblical wisdom, and decades of experience walking alongside couples, Where Did “US” Go? helps husbands and wives understand how disconnection develops and, more importantly, how connection can be rebuilt.

You will discover:

• Why a functioning marriage is not always a connected marriage
• How small attempts at connection—“Reaches”—shape the emotional direction of a relationship
• Why repeated responses create meaning, expectations, and patterns
• How couples unknowingly learn to stop needing one another
• Why some arguments are really about the story beneath the fight
• The difference between apology, forgiveness, and true repair
• How attention, safety, friendship, intimacy, play, and sexual desire change over time
• How your family history may still be influencing your marriage
• How to stop living inside old versions of each other
• How to rediscover the person your spouse has become

This is not a book about recreating the marriage you had when you were twenty-five.

It is about discovering what may still be possible between the two people you have become.

Because sometimes love has not disappeared.

US has.

And perhaps it is time to meet again.