How Will I Ever Get Through This?: Evidence-based Tools to Help You Heal from Hardship, Grief, and Loss

Not all grief begins with death. This practical, research-backed guide offers a compassionate path through loss, change, and uncertainty.

From internationally renowned resilience expert and host of one of the most popular TED Talks, Dr. Lucy Hone, How Will I Ever Get Through This? is an accessible and evidence-based guide to navigating grief in all its forms, including the loss of a loved one, divorce, illness, estrangement, infertility, job loss, trauma, and other life-changing experiences.

Some losses are visible. Others, sometimes called “living losses,” can profoundly alter our identity, relationships, and sense of the future without being fully recognized by the people around us. Drawing on original research, her work with grieving individuals, and her own experience of devastating loss, Dr. Hone explains why grief affects the mind and body and offers practical strategies for moving through it.

Organized around twenty essential questions, the book addresses the concerns that arise during life’s most difficult seasons:
-Why am I so tired?
-Who am I now?
-Will I ever feel happy again?
-How has this loss changed me?
-What can I do when my emotions feel overwhelming?

Through clear explanations, compassionate guidance, reflective exercises, and proven coping tools, Dr. Hone helps readers understand what they are experiencing, regain a sense of control, and take small, manageable steps toward healing.

For anyone living with grief or struggling through a major life change, How Will I Ever Get Through This? is a practical and hopeful resource for finding resilience, meaning, and a way forward.

Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today.