Guy Buckles

Logan J. Farr, grandson, 15 yrs of age. Currently in Intensive Care Unit awaiting Lung Transplant. He has had an unknown Immune Disorder for eight years. Logan's medical disorder is referred to as Logan's disease.

As the Grandfather of a terminally-ill teenage boy, I’ve spent the last seven years watching his mother and father provide/being as a round-the-clock caregiver. Their days are filled with the heartbreak and exhaustion one would expect from the experience of slowly losing a child, but they are also infused with wonder, gratitude and beauty. It's impossible to have an experience like this without waking up to a whole new way of understanding life, death and disability. Among other things, it asks the question "are the disabled and their caregivers merely ill-fated victims of circumstance, or is their path a far more noble one, an opportunity to learn -- and to teach -- acceptance, peace and unconditional Love?"

Your response to this is no doubt to feel unimaginable sadness and great compassion. You're probably thinking, "it's tragic, it's unthinkably horrible. It's annihilating. It's unfair." And yes, all of the above is true. But that's not the only truth: there is success over fear. Which brings us to another level, a level at which this experience is a miracle, a gift, and the chance to receive an honorary doctorate in Advanced Awakening.

So if there's nothing to fear, then what does that leave us with? Acceptance of what is, and free choice as to how we want to experience it. Imagine going through life as if the worst possible things have already happened and there's nothing left to dread. Or better yet, imagine believing that there are no good or bad experiences, no good or bad people, no good, no bad, period. Everything that happens just happens. There are no values on any of it. Every action is part of a whole series of related actions, all for a purpose, a million purposes, filled with growth lessons and possibilities for expanding our views and shedding our limitations. Little by little growing toward a state of gentle acceptance, peace and recognition that these experiences are gifts to teach us how to live in a state of being devoted to Love.

My stumbling approach, to help levitate monetary relief for Logan's parents, is to author several books of different topics for diverse readers.