Gridlock: Finding the Courage to Move on in Love, Work and Life

From the author of How Could You Do This to Me? comes a wonderful guide to taking action when we get "stuck" in our careers and relationships.

Are you Gridlocked?

Have you ever found yourself:

Feeling misunderstood when explaining to your loved one what makes you happy?
Getting anxious about meeting strangers?
Longing to tell off your boss--but giving your monologue to the water cooler?
Feeling guilty when you do what you want to do?
Compromising in order to share your spouse's or friends' beliefs, interests/hobbies?
Feeling responsible for your mother's happiness?

If so, you may be experiencing emotional Gridlock.

Gridlock is for anyone who has ever been stuck--in a bad relationship, career, friendship, or family interaction. In these pages you will learn not only how to identify the patterns you and your loved ones have fallen into, but how to find the courage to change them and move on.

Which one of us hasn't felt trapped--in a bad relationship, a moribund career, a destructive lifestyle? And, making it worse, we often know what we need to do to change things. We just don't know how to do it, or why we keep confronting the same problems over and over. If this is a familiar scenario, for you or for a loved one, Gridlock will be a godsend. It truly is for anyone who has ever wondered, "Is it me or is it them?"; for anyone who doesn't speak up for themselves; for anyone who thinks they could be getting more out of their relationship, their friendships, their career, or their life.

Dr. Jane Greer begins by offering clear, concise explanations of why we do what we do. She then provides specific tools and skills that will help you to cut through the confusion, self-doubt, or self-sabotaging behavior that keeps you or those you know stuck.

So, whether your problem is love, career, or personal fulfillment, Gridlock will offer you a way out--and up.


For all those who stayed on--in jobs or relationships that hurt, rather than enhanced, their lives--GRIDLOCK is a godsend. It is for anyone who ever wondered, "Is it them, or is it me?" It is for anyone who does not feel entitled to speak up for themselves, doesn't know how to, or doesn't think they can. It is for anyone who suspects they could be getting more out of their relationships and their lives--if only they could get a jump-start.

GRIDLOCK offers clear, concise explanations enabling us to understand why we do what we do, in addition to specific tools and skills to cut through our confusion and self-doubt and help us gain the self-assurance necessary to make positive life choices. Whether the problem is love, career, or personal self-fulfillment, GRIDLOCK offers a way out--and up. -->

Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage and family therapist, in private practice for over twenty years. She is the writer of two Internet advice columns: "Ask the Relationship Doctor" for Redbook Online, at www.redbookmag.com/askdrgreer; and "Relation Rx" on Oxygen, at www.momsonline.com. She is frequently featured on "Montel," "Oprah," "Ricki Lake," "20/20," "Dateline," "Donny & Marie," and "The View"; and in USA Today, the New York Times, the New York Post, Cosmopolitan, and Glamour. She lectures across the country on marital, sexual, and family problems, as well as on women's and sibling issues. She is the author of How Could You Do This to Me? (also with Margery D. Rosen). Dr. Greer's practice is in Manhattan.

Margery D. Rosen is a veteran freelance writer and editor who specializes in relationship, family, and parenting issues. She has more than twenty years' experience writing for national publications. She lives in New York City.


MARGERY D. ROSEN is a veteran freelance writer and editor who specializes in relationship, family, and parenting issues. She has more than twenty years' experience writing for national publications. She lives in New York City. -->