Being Single in a Couples World: How to Be Happily Single While Looking for Love - Hardcover

Amador, Xavier; Kiersky, Judith

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9780684843490: Being Single in a Couples World: How to Be Happily Single While Looking for Love

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ISBN 10: 0684843498 ISBN 13: 9780684843490

Publisher: Free Press, 1998

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Two therapists examine the five personality types common to single people and provide a four-step plan for overcoming the bad habits, negative feelings, and fear prevalent among men and women waiting for the perfect mate. 35,000 first printing.

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Sometimes when you look around, it seems as if the entire world is coupled up. Family, friends, that cute twosome holding hands walking down the street, everyone is either married or in a serious, committed relationship. If you're not one of those people, the world can seem a lonely place. But why is that? Why can't a person be both single and happy?

Xavier Amador, coauthor of When Someone You Love Is Depressed, and Judith Kiersky attack this question in this clear and wonderfully written book. Using case studies and drawing on years of clinical work as psychologists and professors, the authors investigate the basis of both men and women's dissatisfaction as singles. Tracing the roots of the stigma of aloneness, they examine the obstacles that prevent singles from being content--everything from family and friends to fear and ambivalence. They then describe the four stages of being single, and finally, they give you the tools that will enable you to "be single in the present." Unlike other self-help books dealing with singledom, the goal of this book is not to get you married; it's to figure out why you're single and to help you gain balance and happiness as you are.

Whether you've never married or are divorced or widowed, whether you wish to remain single or to eventually have a meaningful relationship, this book will guide you in bypassing the "cultural scripts" that demand you need a mate to be fulfilled. The authors show that life can be great on your own. --Jenny Brown

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Whether you are actively looking for a mate or have decided that marriage isn't what you want right now, psychotherapists Xavier Amador and Judith Kiersky can help you deal with the problems that come from being single in a couples' world.

Drawing on years of clinical experience and research with both single and married clients, Amador and Kiersky have identified the five common stumbling blocks that can get in the way of enjoying singlehood. Taking a careful look at the obstacles that cause single people the most pain, the authors have developed a four-step plan to help you achieve balance and happiness -- whether or not you stay single. And the first and most challenging step is to stop buying into old-fashioned ideas about singlehood and marriage.

Combining clear advice and vivid case examples, Being Single in a Couples' World gives all of us the tools we need to find our way to a healthier self and more meaningful relationships.

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