Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box

The Arbinger Institute

ISBN 10: 0141030062 / ISBN 13: 9780141030067

Published by Penguin, 2007

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Synopsis:

You might think you are a people person. But do you really treat others well? And how can you improve your dealings with those around you? Be prepared to have your world turned upside down and open your eyes to a whole new way of living and working. Through a series of entertaining stories, this astonishing book will show you how most of us are not fulfilling our potential - in our personal lives and at work - because of 'self-deception'. It will show you how to escape your box of self-deception, and change for the better in a lasting way: don't focus on what others are doing wrong. Do focus on what you can do to help; don't worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others; and, don't try to be perfect. Do try to be better. By following this book's advice, you can deepen your personal happiness, strengthen your relationships, improve your leadership skills, build teamwork - and increase your success in everything you choose to pursue.

Review: Using the story/parable format so popular these days, Leadership and Self-Deception takes a novel psychological approach to leadership. It's not what you do that matters, say the authors (presumably plural--the book is credited to the esteemed Arbinger Institute), but why you do it. Latching onto the latest leadership trend won't make people follow you if your motives are selfish--people can smell a rat, even one that says it's trying to empower them. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed. We deceive ourselves in subtle ways into thinking that we're doing the right thing for the right reason. We really do know what the right thing to do is, but this constant self-justification becomes such an ingrained habit that it's hard to break free of it--it's as though we're trapped in a box, the authors say.

Learning how the process of self-deception works--and how to avoid it and stay in touch with our innate sense of what's right--is at the heart of the book. We follow Tom, an old-school, by-the-book kind of guy who is a newly hired executive at Zagrum Corporation, as two senior executives show him the many ways he's "in the box," how that limits him as a leader in ways he's not aware of, and of course how to get out. This is as much a book about personal transformation as it is about leadership per se. The authors use examples from the characters' private as well as professional lives to show how self-deception skews our view of ourselves and the world and ruins our interactions with people, despite what we sincerely believe are our best intentions.

While the writing won't make John Updike lose any sleep, the story entertainingly does the job of pulling the reader in and making a potentially abstruse argument quite enjoyable. The authors have a much better ear for dialogue than is typical of the genre (the book is largely dialogue), although a certain didactic tone creeps in now and then. But ultimately it's a hopeful, even inspiring read that flows along nicely and conveys a message that more than a few managers need to hear. --Pat McGill

Bibliographic Details

Title: Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out ...
Publisher: Penguin
Publication Date: 2007
Binding: Soft cover
Condition: Very Good