Too Nice for Your Own Good: How to Stop Making Nine Self-sabotaging Mistakes

You want to be a nice person and feel good about yourself. But so many of the well intentioned things you do cause you burnout, bottle you up and leave you feeling unsatisfied.

-- Let go of your need to be perfect and please everyone all the time.
-- Say "no" to requests for your skills, energy and time, and feel great doing so.
-- Tell others what you want from them, and receive it, without appearing selfish.
-- Express anger without blowing up and harming your valued relationships
-- Disarm those who wrongly or irrationally criticize or attack you.
-- Be both honest with, and gracious toward, those who fail or disappoint you.
-- Cease giving advice to others and feel good simply giving them information.
-- Be genuinely helpful to addicted loved ones, rather than trying to rescue them.
-- Stop attempting to protect those in grief and begin supporting them.

This remarkable book will liberate you for a richer more enjoyable life ... and you still will be a nice person!

In November 2000, Time Warner published this paperback version of Duke Robinson's hardback, award-winning book GOOD INTENIONS.

He published his second non-fiction book in December 2011, CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE: How to Live Fully Knowing One Day You Will Die .

In September 2012, he completed and published his first novel, SAVIOR: An Old Notion in a New Novel of Unthinkable Absurdity.

Robinson graduated in 1950 from suburban Philadelphia's Haverford High School. He holds a BA degree in philosophy (1954) from Wheaton College near Chicago, and a Masters of Divinity degree (1958), from Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary.

Since 1960, he has lived in the East Bay of Northern California. For 28 years before retiring, he led Oakland's progressive Montclair Presbyterian Church. For several years during that ministry he also served as an adjunct professor at San Francisco Theological Seminary, from which he holds an earned doctorate (1979). Prior to retiring in 1996, he was known widely as a speaker and appeared often on Northern California television.

Since 2000, Robinson has lived in Rossmoor, an active adult community in Walnut Creek, CA.  Barbara, his beloved wife of 54 years died in 2008 (He writes intimately of her dying, and of his almost dying in 2009, in his CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE). He has four adult children, nine grandchildren and two, preschool great-grandsons, both of whom, he says, are "absolute geniuses."

In April 2014, he published A MIDDLE WAY: The Secular/Spiritual Road to Wholeness, a look at how we can integrate science and religion without the struggle to reconcile them.

His fifth book, a memoir, STANDING ON MY HEAD ... WITH MY FLY OPEN, was published by Big Hat Press of Lafayette, CA, in November 2015. Robinson was eight when he stood on his head.  He hits 85 in January 2018.